Boundaries are essential not only for children but also for adults. I know, sorry but it's true.
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How do you feel about boundaries?
0%I don't know what you're talking about.
0%I've never liked that idea of boundaries. It's restrictive.
0%I know they're important but I have no idea how to have any.
0%I do well at holding some boundaries but not other ones.
So why are boundaries important? Why should we make them a priority?
They help establish limits and create a sense of safety, respect, clarity, and living the life you want.
How often have you found yourself agreeing to something that ultimately was upsetting and created resentment?
How often have you taken on some work despite not having the time and it not being something you're responsible for?
How often do you allow someone to speak to you or treat you in a way you don't like?
What will boundaries do for you?
Protect your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.
Maintain healthy relationships and prevent exploitation or manipulation.
Respect for your values, beliefs, and personal space.
Establishing clear expectations and guidelines for behaviour from yourself and others.
Tips for Identifying boundaries.
Needs and Values:
Make a list of your needs and values, both practical and emotional. Examples might include alone time, respect for personal space, honest communication, or physical safety.
Circle the most important needs and values to you.
Write down the impact if that value or need is NOT met.
Write down the impact if that value or need WAS met.
2. Non-negotiables:
These are the most important needs and values you just identified above.
These pertain to our relationships with others and ourselves- How we want to be treated.
3. Assessing the impact:
What is the impact on your well-being, relationships, and overall happiness if you do meet your needs?
What are the consequences of neglecting your boundaries and how they can affect your mental and emotional well-being?
4. Meeting your needs:
Start by taking one step to meet your needs by communicating them to others. Having clear boundaries in your relationships will have a powerful impact.
Implement self-care needs as part of your inner boundaries- How you take care of yourself is also having clear boundaries of how you want to treat yourself.
Seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals if necessary to help you meet these boundaries. Often reaching out to someone you trust is a great way to explore how to communicate your boundaries.
Remember, setting and maintaining boundaries is an ongoing process. It requires self-awareness, assertiveness, and consistent reinforcement. Regularly assess your boundaries to ensure they align with your evolving needs and values.
Remember to:
Reflect regularly on your values, needs, and limits.
Communicate your boundaries in all relationships with others, work and yourself. Communicating is powerful and will give you safety. People aren't mind readers.
Be consistent - This is the only way you will experience the incredible benefits of actively upholding boundaries.
Practice self-care. This has to be worked at consistently.
Be assertive and communicate when a boundary has been crossed
Ask for support.
For more on boundaries or if you're feeling stuck in either identifying them or maintaining them, click here. Let's have a chat about it so that you can live with a more clear understanding of your next step in upholding your boundaries.
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